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Imagine that you have 30 minutes of time completely to yourself…

You have a flash memory about how much time you used to have to just hang-out and do nothing. ‘When did life get so busy?’ You wonder nostalgically. In a bid to revisit the feelings you have come to associated with your youth, you decide to listen to your favourite music. You put on an album that teleports you back to the good old days every time time you hear it.

You press play.

But alas, something is wrong. The player starts shuffling from song to song. You can’t get into the groove as the player keeps going back and forwards, constantly stuck on “previous” or “fast forward.” All you wanted to do was press play and listen to music for a while! Frustrated, you give up.

Today, we’d like you to open to the idea that your brain is similar to an MP3 player. It would be hard to experience your favorite music in real time without being able to just hit “play.” For many people (especially under stress), the mind is largely occupied reliving the past or anticipating the future, which makes it difficult to fully experience the present moment and meet its demands of us.

But don’t worry, there’s plenty of growing evidence based on a strategy that could help your brain stay on “play” for longer: mindfulness meditation

At The Nurtured Mind our science based mindfulness, restorative yoga and mediation classes and coaching help our clients achieve a sustainable sense of well-being and general health.Our sessions a free of religious content and spiritual hype. We offer practical advice which stems from scientific methodology. Our advice is tailored to our client’s needs, and which they can incorporate into their every day lives. We help our clients incorporate  relaxation, mindfulness and meditation into their lives so it is not difficult, uncomfortable or imposing.
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We are Melbourne’s premium boutique relaxation and meditation sanctuary.

At The Nurtured Mind we are proud to be supporters of mindfulness and meditation practices for people firmly planted in the modern world.

The training we offer is the product of considerable research. On this basis, we can say with confidence that mindfulness and meditation training At The Nurtured Mind:

  • enhances focus and attention
  • increases self-awareness and the awareness of others
  • raises levels of resilience and emotional intelligence
  • strengthens cognitive effectiveness

The skills we teach enable you to:

  • listen attentively
  • be emotionally aware
  • communicate clearly
  • direct your thoughts appropriately
  • focus your mind with consistency
  • relax yourself effectively

 

Our meditation sessions a free of religious content and spiritual hype. We offer practical advice which stems from scientific methodology. Our advice is tailored to our client’s needs, and which they can incorporate into their every day lives. We help our clients incorporate  relaxation, mindfulness and meditation into their lives so it is not difficult, uncomfortable or imposing.

It is wise for those new to meditation to remember one important point before embarking on their practice: meditation is like going to the gym. Although you will most likely feel great after leaving your initial class, you should not expect immediate results. If you stick with the practice and meditate regularly at home as well as in class, it will change your life.

This article offers a summary of several different styles of meditation practice. Alternatively, you will find a list of articles written by our founder at the bottom of this screen.

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Multitasking: How To Get Nothing Done, Quickly

In today’s frantic world, we are constantly pressured to multitask in order to get everything we have on our to-do list done. However constant multitasking isn’t good for us. In fact, it can drain our energy, increase stress, and overtime, leaves us feeling chronically scattered in the mental department.

Luckily for us, the human brain is amazing. It does a great job of processing the continuously shifting information we take in. But according to neuroscience, flipping from task to task comes at a cost to our overall sense of well-being. Why? Because when our brains are confronted with too much information to process, we can struggle to filter the trivial from the important. As it turns out, all of the attention filtering and decision making that we do in a bid to increase productivity, is actually leaving us fatigued and frazzled.

Think of it this way, every status update you read on Facebook, every tweet or text message you get from a friend, is competing for attention from your brain. Competing with more important things like what you should do with your savings, where you left your passport, or how to best patch things up with a close friend you just had an argument with.

But what to do? With life pushing us this way and that, with the endless commitments to our friends, family, jobs, school … what can we do to give our brains a competitive edge? The answer is paradoxical in many ways. To achieve greater success, we need to rest. No, we don’t suggest you make like a movie star and hit the Mediterranean (if only!) but instead, just take a little time out to do nothing. NO. THING.

Put away all of your devices, Switch off the TV and the radio, don’t eat, don’t drink, don’t even read a book. Then go somewhere quiet you won’t be disturbed for five minutes and become intensely aware of your 5 senses: sight, sound, smell, taste and touch. Give each sense 1 minute of your undivided attention. That’s it. Done. Your mind will thank you.

No time to stop? Consider this: there are 1440 minutes in a day, this activity requires 5 of them.

And if you need any further convincing, simply ask yourself: “How valuable is my mind?”

Mindfulness and meditation practice, no matter how simple, affords us the opportunity to increase our awareness. This allows us to shift our perception and see how our minds are fashioning the meaning of events that constantly take place around us. Over time we begin to see that the beliefs we have around any particular event, ultimately, leads to how we construct the meaning of our lives. In essence, with awareness, we can re-frame our thinking.

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How Do I Meditate??

This is one of the most common questions we are asked at The Nurtured Mind.

Everyone wants to eradicate negative thought patterns and enjoy some inner peace and tranquility, but meditation just seems so… foreign.

Do I have to sit in some crazy yoga pose?
Do I have to chant?
Do I have to think about my breathing for hours to get any benefit?

The short answer to all of this is… NO!

Meditation is simply the act of focusing on one thought, feeling or sensation to the exclusion of all others. Sure, there are many different ways of achieving this (some more exotic than others) but at its core, meditation can be utterly simple.

It’s trying to get past the ‘thinking mind’, and into a deeper state of awareness.

It’s training our minds to focus on one thing. This is by far the most important point for beginners. Meditation is ‘dose dependent’ in that the more you practice, the more benefits you will notice.

At TNM we encourage all participants new to meditation to embark on their at-home meditation practice the same way they would approach a new training program at the gym. Easy does it!

You should always keep in mind that sometimes you’ll feel like you’re ‘getting it’ and other times you might just want to give up and eat pizza. This is normal. Don’t give up! Even when we feel like our meditation practice isn’t working, it is.

The Nurtured Mind can help you discover different styles of meditation that you can incorporate into your day easily, without adding to your schedule.

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Thoughts Are Not The Enemy

A common conversation we have at The Nurtured Mind:

Us: We’re involved in researching meditation. We also run guided sessions in a really lovely space!”
Friend: “Oh, meditation- I tried that. I couldn’t do it.”

We hear this from just about everyone new to meditation. And fair enough too. Often people new to this practice have certain ideas in mind of what ‘successful’ meditation looks like: sitting cross-legged, eyes closed, seemingly serene and free of thoughts, maybe even with beams of light shooting out of their heads while they float effortlessly one meter above the ground. Well friends, this imagery is a far cry from the reality of meditation. Especially when you are a beginner!

Although on the outside it may appear like the person meditating is calm and still (and even this takes time to develop) their mind is often a messy tangled web of thoughts and emotions.

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THIS IS NORMAL.

We ask that beginners try and think of meditation as an incremental process – one of investigating your mind and changing the way you relate to your thoughts.

The struggle we face with meditation typically arises because our goals are misplaced. It’s easy to start thinking that the instructions for meditation are the goal of meditation. This is not the case. While we might aim to maintain focus on the breath, the goal is really to learn about our minds. We do this by setting up the conditions for thoughts to arise, and then observe them non-judgmentally.

So for example, if you start thinking about how annoying meditation is while you are meditating (yes, we are mind readers too) you might pause and think “hello frustration, it’s you again.” Leaning into your my annoyance and greeting it with an open curiosity, almost like you would greet an unannounced visitor at your front door.

Once we understand that thoughts are supposed to arise, and are actually necessary for meditation to be meaningful, we can begin to relax. With practice, we begin to realise that thoughts and emotions naturally arise and will naturally pass away. They don’t always need to be acted upon, and that they aren’t as “real” as they seem.

We can start to liken our thoughts to weather changes seen in the sky above us. Sometimes the sky will be sunny, sometimes it’ll be cloudy and raining. We don’t analyse how to change a rainy sky into a sunny sky. We have an explicit understanding: what the sky does on any given day is completely beyond our control. All we can do is go about our business until the sky changes. Knowing all the while that the sky will change. There is no doubt about that.

Why not take this very moment to do a “temperature check” on what your experiencing right now. How are you feeling in this moment? What thoughts are present? How does your body feel? Are you present and fully aware in this moment of your life or are you preoccupied with past or future events? Remember, there’s no need to judge or try and change your experience in any way. Just being aware is more than enough.

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Curiosity Saved The Cat

“It’s hard for people to think, that’s why they judge.” -Carl Jung

If there’s a single mindset that can work against you establishing a regular meditation practice- being overly judgmental is it.

When we judge we are essentially telling ourselves ‘Yep, I’m the oracle of knowledge on this. Full stop. All other theories be gone’. Although such self righteousness might leave us feeling empowered in the short term, the depth of life experience we allow ourselves to encounter is greatly diminished. We can judge things quite easily as humans. It’s how our brains are wired. Like an evolutionary hangover, somewhere in our mind the message: ‘Anything I don’t recognise immediately could be a great woolly mammoth!’ rings loud and true. So we jump to our own imaginary rescue. We promptly decide that X is X and Y is Y. No if’s but’s or maybe’s. The wooly mammoth has been identified… next problem please.
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Be curious, it is the antidote for judgement.

Being forever curious is much like living your life the way a scientist explores the world. Scientists observe the world, developing theories that could explain their observations. Then they develop experiments designed to test these theories. Often, these theories are wrong. Great, this is the aim! If a theory is proven correct, nothing has been learned and the whole PURPOSE of the scientific method IS TO LEARN. This has nothing to do with proving you’re right. Think about it, suppose I say mixing the colours blue and red will make the colour purple. We run the experiment and it turns out I’m right. What now??
Scientists live with the endless possibility that future experiments could prove their current theories wrong. They hold their current theories very loosely. By adopting this mindset they are open to discover what they do not yet know or understand with the awareness that the next experiment (question) may prove everything they thought they understood to be completely wrong. How exciting!

 

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Meditation & Wrinkles…

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Can meditation turn back our biological clock? Quite possibly. A study published in 2013 found that people who meditated daily had longer telomeres than people who don’t get their zen on regularly. (Biochemistry 101: Telomeres are the protective caps on the ends of chromosomes. Chromosomes are the building blocks that make up DNA. And DNA makes you human. Or a tree. Or a dinosaur. It’s amazing stuff.) Generally, telomeres shorten as we age, this we cannot avoid. However what’s interesting is that telomere shortening may be accelerated in the presence of cellular oxidative damage, more commonly known as Miss Free Radical. And what’s a major contributor to Miss Free Radical getting all crazy and multiplying in your body by one trillion really quickly? Chronic psychological stress. Don’t shoot the messenger, this is according to Elizabeth A. Hoge, MD, assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Something about her title tells us she’s a credible source though.

So can meditation help? Yes! How? Well, meditating can be rather relaxing, it’s like a warm bubble bath for your brain after a long hard day. When you are relaxed you are not stressed. “Thank you Captain Obvious” we hear you say, but bear with us! A decrease in psychological stress leads to a decreases in the body’s production of stress hormones. Stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline (public health enemies one and two, respectively) have negative effects on the human body. These effects include accelerated tissue damage which = premature aging.

Now don’t go getting stressed about being stressed, that would be completely counterproductive. We are covering this topic to engage the modern day gal, and as any modern day gal will quickly point out- a certain amount of stress is unavoidable in our world today. But we implore you- START MEDITATING! In particular explore loving-kindness meditation. This form of meditation has its origins in the Buddhist tradition but anyone and everyone can and should give it a go. Ladies that visit us at The Nurtured Mind love it as the benefits are immediately palpable.

As you practice loving-kindness meditation you are encouraged to think of other people. Someone who you know well, someone you don’t, a person you like and finally, a person you may want to smack (although, at The Nurtured Mind we try and refrain for using the term ‘smack’). This type of social focus can lead to a significant increase on the activity of the oxytocin in the brain. Boosts in oxytocin have been linked to health benefits including lower blood pressure, faster wound healing and you guessed it, slowing down the aging process.

Now, what about Botox and similar fandangle “treatments” available out there? Well, if you feel good about this stuff then go for it. We won’t tell anyone!

But if you’re stuck on the fence, (the way many modern women are these days) be open to asking yourself ‘does this stuff really feel good?’

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